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So, Gay Marriage. As this subject spreads across the globe, and through our states here in the U.S. (or, rather, tries to...*AHEM* *cough* HAWAII), I see a few misconceptions that might be blocking this whole process in some areas. Other areas are moving forward, yet some are still blocked. So... Let's review:
One, "Gay" has next to nothing to do with actual sex. "Gay" is who you love. "Sex" is what you have with that person. If you think otherwise, you might ask yourself why you think two straight people get married. Is it because they won the Sex Lottery with each other? Are they standing before everyone they know and proclaiming their love of sex with each other, first and foremost? Likely, no. In most cases, marriage is about love.
Second, "Marriage" is the socially acceptable term for creating a union with someone you love, announcing that love for each other and proclaiming that you will live this life with this partner. Unfortunately "Marriage" is a religious term, and "Union" has been bastardized by attempts to prop up semi-laws and pretend that they are equal to the rights granted by official "Marriage." So, when many of us say we seek "Marriage", what we really mean is "Equality of All Rights and Privileges Under the Law and the Land." Some of us will want religious ceremonies per whatever religion one is affiliated with. Some of us will want to create our own ceremonies. The bond, however, is there no matter what ceremony is performed (or not).
Third, (continuing on from above) the spiritual aspect of this - Love - is actually not governed by any law or type of ceremony, as hearts are bound in spirit, not paper. Yet, as long as we live here in this human form, these hearts not bound by paper or bodies or any other physical aspect or making of structure, should be granted equal rights. As long as other people have their rights on papers and laws, ALL people should have these rights.
The term we have chosen, as a society, for this joining of two hearts and spirits is "Marriage." It is a term. It is a loose term, with many meanings, per whomever you speak with. So, yes. We seek "Gay Marriage." We seek "Marriage Equality." If we can all look past the "Gay" and the "Marriage" - terms that we have societally accepted as general labels - and focus on the "Equality", then what, truly, is the problem here? This is not about sex. This is not about religion. This is about the most divine aspect of being human - Love - and about Equality.
